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fantasy revisited

Posted on Sep 15th, 2009 by tara : samana tara
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for September 15, 2009:

If you could take the next month off, what would you do?


For real?  I'd have to pass. The next months are offering me a great opportunity to train for a new line of work in Human Resources & I'm soo excited! I love learning & I can't wait to fill my brain with new knowledge & getting more tools to play with, yay! Not even the fact that this incarnated Macbabe fan is going to be firing up the PC! & diving into the world of word & other unknown microsoft entities on a daily base, is causing her to pause. I might involuntarily break out in hives due to excessive PC exposure & have to apply ointments, but I'll cope. 





Hypothetically?  All obligations paused (add big bag of money), I would soo be travelling. I'm restlessly restless, aching to be highly adventurous & most of all, dying to meet you my gorgeous friends. First stop would be Portugal for a taste of Victoria's vision, Barbados for some frolicking on the beach with Sherri, then off to Canada (Yo! Bridget & mimi) & finally cruising the U.S. I imagine a cross country drive popping in for a face2face with each lovely soul I've come to know & adore these past 2 1/2 yrs on Gaia. Too many Americans to mention & if this flight of fantasy was for real, I'd say, get ready for a surprise visit soonish. And a certain someone in a village in England, who serves up scones with strawberry jam & cream for afternoon tea, can put on the kettle too. Now, add a couple more months & you're looking at a word picture perfect of tara dreaming.. Ooh, that travel bug has a distinctive bite.


Bj




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What experiences do you think are important for children to have?

Posted on Sep 18th, 2009 by tara : samana tara
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for September 18, 2009:







   to be looked at with kind, loving eyes & given accept, appreciation & attention.

   same thing goes for adults btw.


   I would define love very simply: as a potent blend of openness and warmth, 
   which allows us to make real contact, to take delight in and appreciate, 
   and to be at one with- our selves, others, and life itself. 

   openness - the heart's pure, unconditional yes- is love's essence. 

   and warmth is love's basic expression, arising as a natural
   extension of this yes- the desire to reach out and touch,
   connect with, and nourish what we love.




Leonard Cohen - Love Itself






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Is your birth name the name that's "yours"?

Posted on Sep 20th, 2009 by tara : samana tara
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for September 20, 2009:







The short answer: no. 

-And if you really want to know: my birth name was bitten schelde hansen & growing up in the southern part of denmark, our lingo would suffer the occasional inspiration from german, so my first nick was bitschenlein which translates to lil bit. Not to be confused with the english word bitch, that particular nick was thrown in for good measure later. I'll get back to that. During college years I had the pleasure of being called baby face, benjamin cuz I was the youngest & bitschenlein morphed into bits. 

I partly changed my sir name to my mother's maiden name a few years after my father died. His family were not the nicest people & I didn't feel comfortable being linked to that crowd, so I changed from schelde hansen to hansen bisgaard & out into the big world I went, bitten hansen bisgaard, still nicked as bits. I bumped into an australian on a ferry boat from brindisi to corfu & accidently married him a couple of years later. This caused another name change to bitten bisgaard griffiths, my nick to shorten into bit with a certain someone occasionally adding -ch. The name bitten also had the fun sideeffect of making aussies burst into spontaneously singing 'once bitten, twice shy', what a hoot that was.. the first few mths. 

The aussie prince eventually morphed into a frog & my name got buffed down to bitten bisgaard. Legally, the hansen bit was still there, but only used when signing official papers. 'Keeping it simple' was slowly sliding into my life, to be followed by a nationwide trend of cutting one's sir name down to a letter, which made me bitten b. for a while. My first name had long ago lost it's appeal to me due to the lack of meaning behind it. Appearently it's a french nick for brigitte & that's all there is to it. I'd been toying with names like Cecilia & a variety of old nordic names, none of which really felt like me. I find that changing one's first name to be a rather big deal, (although not legally, in dk it's easy & free), there's a specific energy attached to a name so it has to be a snug fit.

I chose my current name after having gone through a long dark night of the soul. The tibetan goddess of compassion, greenheart tara, was my inspiration. Emerging from the muddy waters into a new beginning called for a symbolic ritual. The major new insight being the knowledge that it was high time to start treating myself with kindness & compassion, tara is the perfect reminder to keep doing just that. I found my snug fit. Some of you do notice that I write my name with a t rather than a T ( thank you for that, big letters come across to me as somewhat bombastic aka less aesthetic, hence the choice). I decided to alert the less observant by using the monicker 'tara -with a little t' a while back & some witty gais still call me little t on occasion. cute. 

To get on the good side of my grandmother (she dislikes change as much as I adore it), I added rosted to my name. It means quiet place & I quite like that. It's her mother's middle name, but it had no effect. She still calls me bitten with a stubborn frown. So much for that. tara rosted bisgaard. I don't use rosted much, pronounced in english with a hard d, (in danish it's a soft d like the spanish one) it sounds like roasted & makes me think of chicken. Try not to think of chicken when you say the word rosted.

- Amazing what's in a name, it's really just a word, a compilation of letters, a form, a sound, & can also hold a lot of meaning in one's mind as it does in mine. I love my name, the way it sounds & makes me feel, & mostly that I chose tara for me. 


Antony And The Johnsons 'Kiss My Name' 2009




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