black and white
October 2008 
the illusoriness of ego
Posted on Jul 10th, 2008
by 
tara
tara
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for July 10, 2008:
.........what get's in the way of us connecting to each other?
our ego's fear of not being loved,
being a projection of lack of self love &
the hiding behind masks due to the roles we play,
prevents us from opening our hearts to each other
for us to truly connect in a real way..
[ narcisism ]
our ego's fear of not being loved,
being a projection of lack of self love &
the hiding behind masks due to the roles we play,
prevents us from opening our hearts to each other
for us to truly connect in a real way..
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Beautifully said!
By learning to let go and stay authentic we can stay focused on real living.
Very impactful; good job. S
do you mean the picture of myself hiding in the closet that ages but I remain young? like the portrait of Dorian Gray? LOL
Seriously tara…we all need to shed these masks and show ourselves to the real world, and be the weirdos we are without worry! That is the reason we are such good pals…our masks are discarded at the entrance to the portal here…!
love ya,
A
thank you Gais <3
..a very cool association you made there Aley.. & yes, the vanity that comes with narcisism will surely prevent us from connecting, or maybe rather prevent us from connecting to ourselves, which I think is what makes up the masks in the first place… & with a heart your size, methink it virtually impossible for you to find a mask big enough to hide behind ;-)
..in a sense we do have that picture of ourselves that ages aka the form we carry our souls around in, whilst we stay young inside, don't we? My grandmother, who just turned 90, has this amazing aged face with wrinkles like the bark on a tree. She says to me, 'it is the oddest thing looking at the face of an old lady in the mirror, with me still young, looking out from the inside'…
Your granny is a cool gem! I feel the same way when looking at pics or mirrors with my image in them!
Ha! so do I.. I said that once to my granny & she retorted with a ppfffhh! ..don't get smart with me kiddo, let's talk when you feel the rain on your face settling into puddles, LOL!
OMG I have to shed my mask and let people see how normal I am ;-) But then again let's define normal. As for the lines a relief to see i'm still looking at me and i can shut my eyes when i sleep….however i notice my knees creak I'm not sure this reassures me.
Tara your right though roles are weird things it does feel nice to just be you,I've had it with method acting. The real test who can let one rip in public and not be mortified?
the picture makes feel that the man has total power over all, but it seems like a tough job to do…… look how hard he handle those pictures over him
Another great answer plus a meaningful image to go with it from tara, whose star is burning bright across gaia!
Yes, it must be a heavy load. It's a challenge at first to free yourself and show up each place, but with time you bulid the muscle as with any 'exercise' routine. The liberation resulting is definitely worth it. And surprising, people seem to like you even more. Consider it at least one option in your progress.
Peace and love to you. Sincerely, Sherrilene
melady b, you are so funny ;-) I turn my deaf ear when my knees creak, a bit like one of them 3 monkeys ;-) & I'll pass the test anyday.. I participated in a public farting test once, LOL!
Jill Boo, thanks for stopping by & yes, from what I know, narcissism is indeed a tough bugger to handle, an interesting interpretation of the image..
Mila, thank you for your sweet words, you are making me feel all starrific here <3
Sherri, now back with a second comment, I'm flattered & curious as to what conclusion
you have reached to make you consider giving me advice in regard to my progress?
By that, I mean, what heavy load are you referring to? & what do you mean by saying
'it's a challenge at first to free yourself & show up each place' ?
hi sweetie tara, I have not read any of the other responses … as I have not been online for several days and just wanted to say that I have very much missed our connection!!! I love you dear sweet woman! I'm still in transition and will be coming and going for the next month or more….
You always say things that 'connect' to me deep - love you!
peri :))
tara - I know just how your granny feels - cool granny, and cool blog.
I needed to look it up - ;-) & love your blog and comments! It is worth working on so we can connect and be free of narcissistic behavior. Is it like being a cuss word? I am on your learning curve here not only to connect with you but more spiritual sides.
narcissism | excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one's physical appearance.• Psychology, extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one's own talents and a craving for admiration, as characterizing a personality type. See note at egotism . { egotism |The practice of talking and thinking about oneself excessively because of an undue sense of self-importance : in his arrogance and egotism, he underestimated } Egotism is a negative term that combines extreme self-preoccupation with a tendency to show off or attract attention.There is nothing neutral about conceit, which carries strong connotations of superiority and a failure to see oneself realistically (: he was so rich and powerful that conceit came easily).Vanity, on the other hand, is not based so much on feelings of superiority as it is on a love for oneself and a craving for the admiration of others (: his vanity drove him to cosmetic surgery). Narcissism once considered a technical term drawn from psychology and philosophy, respectively, but nowadays is are also in the general language. Narcissism means self-love and preoccupation with one's physical or mental attributes (: the beautiful young actress had a reputation for narcissism).
narcissism his emotional development was hindered by his mother's narcissism vanity, self-love, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-obsession, conceit, self-centeredness, self-regard, egotism
What a great description from the dictionary.
Hi Kathy,
I was just trying to leave a comment on your blog, but not possible at the moment, something's up at gaia ;-)
no, narcissism is not a cuss word, it has become part of our general language as we are living in the times of narcissism. We all have narcissistic traits a s such, like we have everything else in our personality. It only becomes a pathology when we are no longer able to view ourselves in a realistic way, like fx with the feeling of superiority, which really is a projection of inferiority, or rather, a lack of self for the narcissist.
I chose that image to go with my words on this one, as I believe it is that lil narcissist we all have, that makes us create an image & hide behind masks.. Basically, it all stems from fear & yes, we do need to work on seeing ourselves & others through the eyes of love & when we do that, I think we are also able to see that we are already connected in the sense that we are the same & as such, one.
Thank you for looking it up & leaving the describtion here. you alerted me to be more attentive to the use of bigwordthingies & to leave a link next time I choose to hurl one about ;-) love & joy tara